Sexing your ex…good or bad idea?

So you’re wondering if it’s a good or bad idea to sleep with your ex.  The typical answer from family and friends or anyone “in their right mind” would be not to do it but why not.  There are many different reasons people go back to their ex-beaus, at least sexually.  Think about it…if you are not promiscuous, it is easier to go back to what you know or what if the sex was just that damn good.   Your relationship could have been great but things just didn’t work out the way you wanted it too.  Whatever the reason may be only you need to justify the situation to yourself.  Keep these five things in mind when deciding whether to “sex your ex”:

5.  EMOTIONAL MATURITY:  Are you emotionally mature to handle the situation?  It is easier said than done.  If feelings are still there you have to be ready to handle whatever outcome happens as a result of sleeping with your ex-beau.  Questions to keep in mind are: are they seeing someone else and am I expecting this to turn into something again, leading me to my next point.

4.  NO EXPECTATIONS:  Sexing your ex should be just what it is unless you all agree otherwise.  The moment you start expecting things as a result is the moment you decide maybe it wasn’t a good idea to sleep with your ex.  Make sure whatever is going on mentally/emotionally in your head is separated by what you want to do physically (if that is all you want to do).  Biggest thing to do with expectations…JUST DON’T HAVE ANY.

3.  LAY OUT GROUND RULES:  What is the playing field between you and your ex?  Are you going to be exclusive sexually?  Do you both agree this is nothing more, nothing less?  These are questions that need answers if you only want a “sexual” relationship with your ex.  It doesn’t have to be complicated so put it on the table and go from there.  You won’t regret being honest with yourself and the situation.

2.  PROTECT YOURSELF:   As common sense as this sounds, people don’t feel the need to protect themselves since this is someone they once dated…NOT TRUE.  Since you all are no longer together, there is always that possibility he or she is sleeping with someone else besides you.  They may be having unprotected sex with their partners too.  You shouldn’t put yourself in a situation where something that was supposed to be fun turns into something deadly.  Put yourself first in this casual situation and think of safe ways you can enjoy your ex-partner even if it involves a condom.

1.  HAVE NO REGRETS & ENJOY THE MOMENT…Enjoy the moment and regret nothing.  The last thing you want is to start having second thoughts about having sex with your ex.  Life is too short and you should enjoy every moment of gratification you’re looking for by having “sex with the ex.”

From my own experience you have to do what works for you.  Next time someone tries to tell you “it’s a bad idea” tell them you got this part of your LIFE covered!

Until next time Brn Skn speaks…