Can friends be lovers?

I like him…I love him…I adore him…but wait we’re just friends. You get a “tingling” feeling every time you’re around this person and thoughts of them consume your day. You’re also quickly reminded that becoming intimate with your friend could CHANGE the dynamic of your relationship. Is it a risk you take because you feel like your friendship has a strong foundation? Do you proceed knowing the energy between you all just makes perfect sense? Or do you hold back with the “would’ve, could’ve, should’ve”, wondering what could’ve happened?

Tell me. Can friends be lovers? Can lovers be friends? Such a dangerous topic some would say, but it would truly depend on the individuals being mature, knowing what they want, and being able to communicate that effectively.

MATURITY…Not everyone is able to deal with the aftermath of messing with a friend. I would often hear stories about friendships being destroyed because they crossed the line or the foundation wasn’t there to begin with. Listen, this is grown people’s business so be mature about yours and “pursue” with caution.

WHAT DO YOU WANT…Oftentimes you delve into the situation not asking yourself this question. What do you want from this “oh so fly” friend of yours? Maybe after that “slip up”, you just want the intimacy since the energy is already there…OR maybe you think this friend is relationship worthy. Either way put it on the table so you’re not second-guessing yourself.

COMMUNICATE MUCH (?)…The woes of not communicating effectively. Your “friend crush” is not a mind reader. I’m just saying maybe you should let him or her know how you feel. If you all haven’t slipped up by now (kissed or sexed each other, fondled around), maybe you need to, to see if it’s relationship worthy (just a thought). Some of the best relationships are built off the strongest friendships.

Speaking from my own experience, I have some of the greatest guy friends in the world, especially my best friend. I would have never entertained wanting to be with any one of them until a few months ago. I found myself having a “friend crush” on two of them. One friend I’ve known for years and in our pictures to the outside world, we looked like a couple. The other friend wasn’t so obvious. Crossed the line (somewhat) with him and haven’t stopped thinking about it since. I like him…I adore him…I “allure” him. The energy between us was CRAZY (in a good way) and being in his company felt rebellious and liberating. Our relationship hasn’t changed yet, surprisingly. Would I do it again? Most definitely! Between me and you, I adore being adored by the one I adore…